Why is a funeral like a wedding?
You had better get to know - and trust - your minister, priest, imam or rabbi. At such important life events, we really do not want to trust these life changing words, a wedding homily or a eulogy, to a complete stranger.
In a roundabout way, I might also be encouraging you to join a congregation of your faith community. Certainly there is great benefit to that. (Here in the Dallas area, we are fortunate that the affiliation rate is high.) But for the sake of our discussion, it is far better for a funeral director to meet with your family and know exactly who to call. If not, he or she will go to a file and start making calls. A "rent a reverend" or "rent a rebbe" might do a great job but in truth, it's just a job; your life event is not part of the life cycle of his or her congregation.
In other words, it is much better to build a long-term relationship with a clergy-person, one who can assist you and your family before, during and after tragedy strikes.
As a great rabbi once said, "I married your parents, I named you and I married you. Now I am burying your father."
Can we ask for a deeper relationship than that?
This too is part of our pre-planning.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home