It's been awhile but I'm back to blogging. I'm now working as a Pre-Planning Advisor and have left Sparkman Hillcrest. While I still represent this funeral home (and still can help you with your cemetery and funeral needs there), I now work strictly on the pre-need side of the industry. I produce seminars, utilize about 12 funeral homes, 4 cemeteries and can offer you even better service.
So please ask yourself - and your life partner - the following two questions:
1. How do you want to celebrate the end of your life?
2. Do you prefer burial or cremation?
Then contact me.
And remember, always walk on the bright side of life!
Jordan Parr
Your Pre-Planning Advisor
Dignity Memorial
jordan.parr@sci-us.com
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Sunday, April 8, 2012
The Trouble With Hail
I've been having fun recently with my networking group here in Dallas due to the prevalance of hailstorms. We have a top-notch roofer in the group from Paragon Roofing who has been so excited about how his company will repair the hail damage that these Texas storms are causing here in the Dallas area. And so, every week, I follow him and try to be equally eloquent about how wonderful it would be to purchase a crypt in our indoor mausoleum at Sparkman Hillcrest!
In our mausoleum, you can have a service in our chapel and then an entombment without ever leaving the building. Furthermore, this massive concrete building will withstand even the most severe weather that Texas throws at us. While this has garnered massive laughs at our breakfast meetings, the reality is that our mausoleum is a tremendous economic and emotional value. We also have a large selection of niches in the mausoleum for those who desire to place urns in a permanent location.
So while I was out in the rain today with a family identifying the burial space for their loved one, believe me, I wished that they had chosen the mausoleum instead! If you are interested, please give me a call.
And remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home and Cemetery
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignity.com
In our mausoleum, you can have a service in our chapel and then an entombment without ever leaving the building. Furthermore, this massive concrete building will withstand even the most severe weather that Texas throws at us. While this has garnered massive laughs at our breakfast meetings, the reality is that our mausoleum is a tremendous economic and emotional value. We also have a large selection of niches in the mausoleum for those who desire to place urns in a permanent location.
So while I was out in the rain today with a family identifying the burial space for their loved one, believe me, I wished that they had chosen the mausoleum instead! If you are interested, please give me a call.
And remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home and Cemetery
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignity.com
Sunday, April 1, 2012
They Got Some Money Back!
I met with a wonderful family here in Dallas this past Thursday. Mom passed away at a beautiful old age. Her service was this afternoon at Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home. Everything went exactly as planned. Or should I say, exactly as SHE planned!
You see, 20 years ago, mom decided on her casket, vault cemetery spaces with her late husband and all the accessories. She met with a counselor here in Dallas, wrote everything down and paid for it all. Because the plans were written differently back then, her family is actually getting money back today. In our conference, the kids (probably in their 60's) remarked just how wonderful and easy things were because mom had taken care of everything when she was their age.
I know what you are thinking: Jordan's going to really lay it on thick this week when he goes to visit them! Truth is, I don't have to give them a hard sell. I don't have to sell them anything. They told me how easy things were. I just have to retell mom's story and then ask the question: Don't you want your children to have as easy and beautiful an experience as you did? They have such warm memories of their mother's funeral and we can recreate that for their children with pre-planning. I never sell anything; I create memories.
Certainly we want them to live another 20 or 30 years. But wouldn't it be nice if their children didn't have to open their wallets on the worst day of their lives and perhaps, just perhaps, love their parents even more because they were so thoughtful when they followed in the footsteps of their beloved mother.
You can do the same; just write or give me a call.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
You see, 20 years ago, mom decided on her casket, vault cemetery spaces with her late husband and all the accessories. She met with a counselor here in Dallas, wrote everything down and paid for it all. Because the plans were written differently back then, her family is actually getting money back today. In our conference, the kids (probably in their 60's) remarked just how wonderful and easy things were because mom had taken care of everything when she was their age.
I know what you are thinking: Jordan's going to really lay it on thick this week when he goes to visit them! Truth is, I don't have to give them a hard sell. I don't have to sell them anything. They told me how easy things were. I just have to retell mom's story and then ask the question: Don't you want your children to have as easy and beautiful an experience as you did? They have such warm memories of their mother's funeral and we can recreate that for their children with pre-planning. I never sell anything; I create memories.
Certainly we want them to live another 20 or 30 years. But wouldn't it be nice if their children didn't have to open their wallets on the worst day of their lives and perhaps, just perhaps, love their parents even more because they were so thoughtful when they followed in the footsteps of their beloved mother.
You can do the same; just write or give me a call.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Burial or Cremation?
Do you want a traditional burial, in a casket, or do you want a cremation? I bet you know the answer to this question already?
In certain parts of the country, the cremation rate is almost 75% of all deaths. Here in Dallas, it depends on where you live. In West Plano, for example, our cremation rate is about 65%. At Sparkman Hillcrest, it is about 25%.
We will explore the dynamics of cremation and traditional burial here in Dallas and the Metroplex in later postings. But for now, what do you want? Do you want a Dallas funeral or a Plano cremation? There really is no wrong answer; it depends upon your values, your decisions regarding your final life event and how you want your body treated once you are gone.
But in this case, the larger question is this: Does your family know what you want? I have been in conferences with grown adult children who, when faced with the very real question of burial or cremation, turn to each other and say, "Do you know what mom wanted?" They don't have a clue! And so, whatever they decide, they feel guilty about it. If they bury mom, they feel guilty that they spent money on something that mom might not have wanted. And if they cremate, God forbid that would have gone against mom's deepest values. Either way, they have to live with their decision for the rest of their lives.
Of course, this is when I can help them record their own decisions in a Planning Guide so that their children know what they want. But for mom, it's too late. Her secret has gone to the grave - or to the crematory - with her.
And it did not have to be this way. A brief conversation. A note written in a planning guide. A call to a caring and professional Family Service Director, that is all that was needed in order to avert chaos at the time of death. Certainly this is a hard question to ask mom but let me ask you: is not the reality of an uncertain decision even harder to bear, knowing that it will bring pangs of guilt for the rest of your life?
So take an hour and meet with a Family Service Director. He or she will work with you to record this, and other important decisions. Then, together, you can inform your family of your desires so that they can walk out of that conference on the worst day of their lives confident that they have made the right decision, for they will have carried out your wishes, a final act of love.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
In certain parts of the country, the cremation rate is almost 75% of all deaths. Here in Dallas, it depends on where you live. In West Plano, for example, our cremation rate is about 65%. At Sparkman Hillcrest, it is about 25%.
We will explore the dynamics of cremation and traditional burial here in Dallas and the Metroplex in later postings. But for now, what do you want? Do you want a Dallas funeral or a Plano cremation? There really is no wrong answer; it depends upon your values, your decisions regarding your final life event and how you want your body treated once you are gone.
But in this case, the larger question is this: Does your family know what you want? I have been in conferences with grown adult children who, when faced with the very real question of burial or cremation, turn to each other and say, "Do you know what mom wanted?" They don't have a clue! And so, whatever they decide, they feel guilty about it. If they bury mom, they feel guilty that they spent money on something that mom might not have wanted. And if they cremate, God forbid that would have gone against mom's deepest values. Either way, they have to live with their decision for the rest of their lives.
Of course, this is when I can help them record their own decisions in a Planning Guide so that their children know what they want. But for mom, it's too late. Her secret has gone to the grave - or to the crematory - with her.
And it did not have to be this way. A brief conversation. A note written in a planning guide. A call to a caring and professional Family Service Director, that is all that was needed in order to avert chaos at the time of death. Certainly this is a hard question to ask mom but let me ask you: is not the reality of an uncertain decision even harder to bear, knowing that it will bring pangs of guilt for the rest of your life?
So take an hour and meet with a Family Service Director. He or she will work with you to record this, and other important decisions. Then, together, you can inform your family of your desires so that they can walk out of that conference on the worst day of their lives confident that they have made the right decision, for they will have carried out your wishes, a final act of love.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sunday, March 18, 2012
Money. The Elephant in the Room
Why is a funeral like a wedding?
Frankly, it can cost a lot of money.
Imagine for a minute that your daughter comes home one day and says to you that she is going to get married in 48 hours. Within that 48 hours, you find a wedding chapel, engage clergy, buy appropriate clothing, hire a caterer and musicians, find a florist and somehow find a way to get all of your out of town guests into town - without having prepared a wedding list. And then the happy couple is able to go on a proper honeymoon and move into a house. And it doesn't set you back financially!
Now imagine that your daughter comes home one day and finds you lying on the floor, dead of a heart attack (God forbid!). Within 48 hours, she has to secure a funeral home, a chapel for the service, engage clergy, find appropriate clothing for her and you, find a caterer for the reception following the service, find a florist if that is part of your tradition and somehow find a way to get all of your out of town family and friends into town without having prepared a proper list. And then she has to go to the funeral home and purchase a casket, funeral plan and a cemetery plot, since she doesn't know if you want to be buried or cremated. And then the kindly funeral director informs her that all expenses must be paid before the service as this is the standard policy at every funeral home in the country.
Put this way, who in their right mind would do this? When we plan ahead, we can amortize these costs over years so that the financial shock of a funeral can be absorbed by the ones responsible for making the decisions in the first place. We can spare our families the financial and emotional pain of these decision by making them - and paying for them - in advance. We then lock in these decisions and spare them the increasing costs of funerals and burial plots.
Here in Dallas at Sparkman Hillcrest, we specialize in pre-arrangements. Allow me to give you and your family the peace of mind that all of you deserve and so need. Just contact me at the number below or email me so that we can remove the financial elephant from the room.
And remember: always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Family Service Director
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Frankly, it can cost a lot of money.
Imagine for a minute that your daughter comes home one day and says to you that she is going to get married in 48 hours. Within that 48 hours, you find a wedding chapel, engage clergy, buy appropriate clothing, hire a caterer and musicians, find a florist and somehow find a way to get all of your out of town guests into town - without having prepared a wedding list. And then the happy couple is able to go on a proper honeymoon and move into a house. And it doesn't set you back financially!
Now imagine that your daughter comes home one day and finds you lying on the floor, dead of a heart attack (God forbid!). Within 48 hours, she has to secure a funeral home, a chapel for the service, engage clergy, find appropriate clothing for her and you, find a caterer for the reception following the service, find a florist if that is part of your tradition and somehow find a way to get all of your out of town family and friends into town without having prepared a proper list. And then she has to go to the funeral home and purchase a casket, funeral plan and a cemetery plot, since she doesn't know if you want to be buried or cremated. And then the kindly funeral director informs her that all expenses must be paid before the service as this is the standard policy at every funeral home in the country.
Put this way, who in their right mind would do this? When we plan ahead, we can amortize these costs over years so that the financial shock of a funeral can be absorbed by the ones responsible for making the decisions in the first place. We can spare our families the financial and emotional pain of these decision by making them - and paying for them - in advance. We then lock in these decisions and spare them the increasing costs of funerals and burial plots.
Here in Dallas at Sparkman Hillcrest, we specialize in pre-arrangements. Allow me to give you and your family the peace of mind that all of you deserve and so need. Just contact me at the number below or email me so that we can remove the financial elephant from the room.
And remember: always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Family Service Director
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Too Much Information!
Why is a funeral like a wedding?
Have you ever walked into a bookstore or shopped on Amazon.com and noticed all of the various wedding planning guides available? Every store, large or small, has a wedding gift registry where the happy couple can list all of the items that they want for their new home. Most of this can also be found online. And for many couples - and especially for their parents - the services of an experienced wedding planner are essential. The wedding planner knows how to create and complete the wedding checklist and, just as important, knows the people, such as florists and caterers, who can bring quality service to the wonderful event.
The same planning goes into a funeral, your final life event. Here in Dallas, I provide every couple their own Personal Planning Guide, courtesy of Dignity Memorial. In this Guide, we detail vital statistics, veterans information and financial data so that the survivors can begin to close your estate. We also begin to list family members and key contacts so that they can be contacted at the time of death.
And then we record the decisions made regarding your funeral and final disposition. Say you choose a maple wood casket and want to be buried at Sparkman Hillcrest Cemetery. We would list the specific casket, outer burial container (required by the cemetery) and the location of your plot. Then we would write down where your service and visitation, if desired, will take place. We can list your pallbearers and even your preference of flowers.
Are you getting the picture? Since there are just so many decisions to make at the time of death, it is much better to make these decisions now, sparing your loved ones the pain and agony on the worst day of their lives, a day when you will not be there to answer the one question that they must have answered: What would you want?
Finally, if you live in the Dallas area, please consider me the equivalent of your wedding planner. Allow me to be your final event coordinator. By using a trained, licensed Family Service Director, you and your family will realize the finest service possible, today and when it is needed most. Just contact me and we'll begin to set a time to work on your Personal Planning Guide.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Have you ever walked into a bookstore or shopped on Amazon.com and noticed all of the various wedding planning guides available? Every store, large or small, has a wedding gift registry where the happy couple can list all of the items that they want for their new home. Most of this can also be found online. And for many couples - and especially for their parents - the services of an experienced wedding planner are essential. The wedding planner knows how to create and complete the wedding checklist and, just as important, knows the people, such as florists and caterers, who can bring quality service to the wonderful event.
The same planning goes into a funeral, your final life event. Here in Dallas, I provide every couple their own Personal Planning Guide, courtesy of Dignity Memorial. In this Guide, we detail vital statistics, veterans information and financial data so that the survivors can begin to close your estate. We also begin to list family members and key contacts so that they can be contacted at the time of death.
And then we record the decisions made regarding your funeral and final disposition. Say you choose a maple wood casket and want to be buried at Sparkman Hillcrest Cemetery. We would list the specific casket, outer burial container (required by the cemetery) and the location of your plot. Then we would write down where your service and visitation, if desired, will take place. We can list your pallbearers and even your preference of flowers.
Are you getting the picture? Since there are just so many decisions to make at the time of death, it is much better to make these decisions now, sparing your loved ones the pain and agony on the worst day of their lives, a day when you will not be there to answer the one question that they must have answered: What would you want?
Finally, if you live in the Dallas area, please consider me the equivalent of your wedding planner. Allow me to be your final event coordinator. By using a trained, licensed Family Service Director, you and your family will realize the finest service possible, today and when it is needed most. Just contact me and we'll begin to set a time to work on your Personal Planning Guide.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Your New Home
Why is a funeral like a wedding?
In both situations, you usually get a new home.
When you get married, you may move into a new apartment, condo or house - even if you have lived together for some time. It represents a new start - not yours or mine but "ours".
And when you die, your casket or urn is your eternal home. So you had better choose carefully. When it comes to caskets, quality is important. Here in Dallas, I have seen some caskets (not from us, thankfully) that were so poorly constructed, we were afraid that when we lifted them, the base and the body would stay on the truck! So be sure that you choose a quality casket. If you choose a metal casket, be sure that it is made of 20 or 18 gauge steel at a minimum and preferably made of stainless steel, bronze or copper as these give the best support. If you choose a wooden casket, the named woods, such as pecan, pine, walnut and especially mahogany are better in quality than a hardwood. A traditional all-wood construction, such as an Orthodox Jewish poplar or cherry casket can also provide high quality, even though no metal is used in its construction.
These caskets do not have to be expensive but they are worth every penny. You might say that, "Well, it's going into the ground so it just doesn't matter. Why pay a lot of money for a box?" That may be true but realize that this casket also is a reflection of you and your family values. If you are lying in state during a visitation or rosary in a cheap looking casket, does that say that you were a cheap person? Not everyone could - or should - choose a mahogany or copper casket but remember that your final home speaks as much about you as your home today.
Now if you choose to be cremated, the same can be said of your urn. There is a great variety of choices in urns today. You can choose from wood, metals, stone, ceramic and even biodegradable materials (more about that in a future posting). So consider that the exterior of the urn also reflects who you are. Do you want to place an inscription on the urn? What will it say? Will the urn be placed in a glass-front niche? How will it be displayed at your memorial service?
So these questions take a lot of thought. By planning ahead with a trained and caring counselor, you can reflect upon these questions, record the answers, pay for your decisions in advance and then share your caring choices with your family. This will spare them the agony of decision making on the worst day of their lives - the day when you are no longer there to make these decisions for them.
But for now:
Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Family Service Director
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Facebook: Dallas Pre-Arranged Funerals
In both situations, you usually get a new home.
When you get married, you may move into a new apartment, condo or house - even if you have lived together for some time. It represents a new start - not yours or mine but "ours".
And when you die, your casket or urn is your eternal home. So you had better choose carefully. When it comes to caskets, quality is important. Here in Dallas, I have seen some caskets (not from us, thankfully) that were so poorly constructed, we were afraid that when we lifted them, the base and the body would stay on the truck! So be sure that you choose a quality casket. If you choose a metal casket, be sure that it is made of 20 or 18 gauge steel at a minimum and preferably made of stainless steel, bronze or copper as these give the best support. If you choose a wooden casket, the named woods, such as pecan, pine, walnut and especially mahogany are better in quality than a hardwood. A traditional all-wood construction, such as an Orthodox Jewish poplar or cherry casket can also provide high quality, even though no metal is used in its construction.
These caskets do not have to be expensive but they are worth every penny. You might say that, "Well, it's going into the ground so it just doesn't matter. Why pay a lot of money for a box?" That may be true but realize that this casket also is a reflection of you and your family values. If you are lying in state during a visitation or rosary in a cheap looking casket, does that say that you were a cheap person? Not everyone could - or should - choose a mahogany or copper casket but remember that your final home speaks as much about you as your home today.
Now if you choose to be cremated, the same can be said of your urn. There is a great variety of choices in urns today. You can choose from wood, metals, stone, ceramic and even biodegradable materials (more about that in a future posting). So consider that the exterior of the urn also reflects who you are. Do you want to place an inscription on the urn? What will it say? Will the urn be placed in a glass-front niche? How will it be displayed at your memorial service?
So these questions take a lot of thought. By planning ahead with a trained and caring counselor, you can reflect upon these questions, record the answers, pay for your decisions in advance and then share your caring choices with your family. This will spare them the agony of decision making on the worst day of their lives - the day when you are no longer there to make these decisions for them.
But for now:
Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Family Service Director
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Facebook: Dallas Pre-Arranged Funerals
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Better Know Your Clergy
Why is a funeral like a wedding?
You had better get to know - and trust - your minister, priest, imam or rabbi. At such important life events, we really do not want to trust these life changing words, a wedding homily or a eulogy, to a complete stranger.
In a roundabout way, I might also be encouraging you to join a congregation of your faith community. Certainly there is great benefit to that. (Here in the Dallas area, we are fortunate that the affiliation rate is high.) But for the sake of our discussion, it is far better for a funeral director to meet with your family and know exactly who to call. If not, he or she will go to a file and start making calls. A "rent a reverend" or "rent a rebbe" might do a great job but in truth, it's just a job; your life event is not part of the life cycle of his or her congregation.
In other words, it is much better to build a long-term relationship with a clergy-person, one who can assist you and your family before, during and after tragedy strikes.
As a great rabbi once said, "I married your parents, I named you and I married you. Now I am burying your father."
Can we ask for a deeper relationship than that?
This too is part of our pre-planning.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
You had better get to know - and trust - your minister, priest, imam or rabbi. At such important life events, we really do not want to trust these life changing words, a wedding homily or a eulogy, to a complete stranger.
In a roundabout way, I might also be encouraging you to join a congregation of your faith community. Certainly there is great benefit to that. (Here in the Dallas area, we are fortunate that the affiliation rate is high.) But for the sake of our discussion, it is far better for a funeral director to meet with your family and know exactly who to call. If not, he or she will go to a file and start making calls. A "rent a reverend" or "rent a rebbe" might do a great job but in truth, it's just a job; your life event is not part of the life cycle of his or her congregation.
In other words, it is much better to build a long-term relationship with a clergy-person, one who can assist you and your family before, during and after tragedy strikes.
As a great rabbi once said, "I married your parents, I named you and I married you. Now I am burying your father."
Can we ask for a deeper relationship than that?
This too is part of our pre-planning.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home
Dallas, TX
214.734.0204
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Why is a funeral like a wedding?
I'm back!
So why is a funeral like a wedding? Over the next few postings, we'll go over this comparison but for now, let's just look at one example: A wedding takes place in a Sanctuary or a chapel (or a site like a hotel ballroom that is made to resemble one). The same occurs with a funeral. Most funeral and memorial services take place in a Sanctuary or funeral home chapel (and some occur just at graveside). Here in Dallas, we are fortunate to have literally hundreds of beautiful settings for funeral and memorial services, whether they be in our funeral chapels, houses of worship or even outdoors, weather permitting.
But when we talk about planning a wedding or funeral, we need to make the decision about the location of the service in advance. So after reading this post, talk with your spouse or partner, children and other important people in your lives about where you want to have your final life event take place - and then talk to me. I'll help you to make it happen. After all, the location of the service is a reflection of your life.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home and Cemetery
Dallas, TX
So why is a funeral like a wedding? Over the next few postings, we'll go over this comparison but for now, let's just look at one example: A wedding takes place in a Sanctuary or a chapel (or a site like a hotel ballroom that is made to resemble one). The same occurs with a funeral. Most funeral and memorial services take place in a Sanctuary or funeral home chapel (and some occur just at graveside). Here in Dallas, we are fortunate to have literally hundreds of beautiful settings for funeral and memorial services, whether they be in our funeral chapels, houses of worship or even outdoors, weather permitting.
But when we talk about planning a wedding or funeral, we need to make the decision about the location of the service in advance. So after reading this post, talk with your spouse or partner, children and other important people in your lives about where you want to have your final life event take place - and then talk to me. I'll help you to make it happen. After all, the location of the service is a reflection of your life.
Remember: Always walk on the bright side of life.
Jordan Parr
jordan.parr@dignitymemorial.com
Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home and Cemetery
Dallas, TX
Sunday, January 10, 2010
The Seven Steps to Planning a Funeral
People have asked me just what it takes to pre-plan a funeral. It is not complicated but it does take a bit of thought - and some money. And even though most of us realize that we need to pre-plan our funerals, few of us do it.
There are many reasons that people delay pre-planning. However, I can say that the two major reasons for stalling are finances and a desire to avoid unpleasant conversation. Yet, I can also say, with 100% certainty, that if you don't pre-plan, someone else will plan for you! And you won't have anything to say about it - you'll be dead. Instead of paying in advance - and perhaps in installments - your loved once will have to pay for everything at once.
So let me identify the seven steps to planning a funeral. In the coming weeks, I will focus on one step during each posting; this is just a general exposition. However, by looking at the process in its totality, you will be able to see that a lot of work has to be done. And I want to ask you again: would you rather take your time and make your arrangements according to your desires - or do you want your family to do all of this planning on the worst day of their lives - and your first day in the next world?
Call me and we'll talk.
Here are the 7 steps:
1. Personal Planning Guide
This is the cornerstone of the entire process. The Personal Planning Guide takes you through the steps needed to plan a funeral and put your personal affairs in order. It gives you a chance to designate a funeral home, burial or cremation, military honors, etc. It also puts items such as your social security card, military discharge certificate, credit card and bank information and the like in one place.
2. Purchase of Cemetery property (or mausoleum crypt or niche)
You need to decide if you want to be buried in the ground, entombed in a mausoleum or cremated. And if you want to be cremated, do you want your ashes scattered, buried or placed in a niche. Once you make these decisions, you will need to purchase the property necessary to carry out your wishes. This is the first financial step towards completing your arrangements.
3. Opening/Closing fee
Every cemetery charges a fee to open and close a grave, crypt or niche. You are now able to pay for this in advance. It is a good idea to take care of this charge, also called an Interment Fee, in advance.
4. Away From Home Protection
Available only for pre-need contracts, Away From Home is travel protection. For a small fee, you can insure that, should something tragic happen to you while traveling almost anywhere in the world, your body will be returned without additional cost. You can purchase this protection by itself or as part of a cemetery contract.
5. Pre-paid insurance funded funeral
A funeral is financed through a pre-need insurance policy. This is different than traditional life insurance, which is used to create wealth and an estate. A pre-need insurance policy enables you to pay for tomorrow's funeral at today's prices. It covers, among other items, the basic services of the funeral home, embalming (if desired), the casket, hearse, flowers and often the outer burial container. There are, of course, other items that can be included. Deciding on the terms of a pre-paid insurance funded funeral contract helps your survivors to avoid emotional overspending and actually keeps the cost of your funeral much lower than it would be if your family planned your funeral when you die.
6. Outer burial container
Most cemeteries require a casket to be placed in an outer burial container. This vault or liner serves to protect the top of the casket from collapsing and also protects the surface integrity of the cemetery. Without the outer burial container, the ground above the casket might sink, causing possible injury to people and damage to equipment.
7. Marker and/or stone memorial
After you are buried or entombed, the marker/memorial tells your loved ones where you are buried - and tells others a little bit about you. The marker usually is made of bronze or granite. Granite is also used to build a stone memorial. These take some time to design and manufacture; they can also be purchased in advance and put in place when needed.
So as you can tell, there is a lot to do. So with all the contracts that have to be written - and funded - doesn't it make sense to begin now?
We'll talk.
Jordan
There are many reasons that people delay pre-planning. However, I can say that the two major reasons for stalling are finances and a desire to avoid unpleasant conversation. Yet, I can also say, with 100% certainty, that if you don't pre-plan, someone else will plan for you! And you won't have anything to say about it - you'll be dead. Instead of paying in advance - and perhaps in installments - your loved once will have to pay for everything at once.
So let me identify the seven steps to planning a funeral. In the coming weeks, I will focus on one step during each posting; this is just a general exposition. However, by looking at the process in its totality, you will be able to see that a lot of work has to be done. And I want to ask you again: would you rather take your time and make your arrangements according to your desires - or do you want your family to do all of this planning on the worst day of their lives - and your first day in the next world?
Call me and we'll talk.
Here are the 7 steps:
1. Personal Planning Guide
This is the cornerstone of the entire process. The Personal Planning Guide takes you through the steps needed to plan a funeral and put your personal affairs in order. It gives you a chance to designate a funeral home, burial or cremation, military honors, etc. It also puts items such as your social security card, military discharge certificate, credit card and bank information and the like in one place.
2. Purchase of Cemetery property (or mausoleum crypt or niche)
You need to decide if you want to be buried in the ground, entombed in a mausoleum or cremated. And if you want to be cremated, do you want your ashes scattered, buried or placed in a niche. Once you make these decisions, you will need to purchase the property necessary to carry out your wishes. This is the first financial step towards completing your arrangements.
3. Opening/Closing fee
Every cemetery charges a fee to open and close a grave, crypt or niche. You are now able to pay for this in advance. It is a good idea to take care of this charge, also called an Interment Fee, in advance.
4. Away From Home Protection
Available only for pre-need contracts, Away From Home is travel protection. For a small fee, you can insure that, should something tragic happen to you while traveling almost anywhere in the world, your body will be returned without additional cost. You can purchase this protection by itself or as part of a cemetery contract.
5. Pre-paid insurance funded funeral
A funeral is financed through a pre-need insurance policy. This is different than traditional life insurance, which is used to create wealth and an estate. A pre-need insurance policy enables you to pay for tomorrow's funeral at today's prices. It covers, among other items, the basic services of the funeral home, embalming (if desired), the casket, hearse, flowers and often the outer burial container. There are, of course, other items that can be included. Deciding on the terms of a pre-paid insurance funded funeral contract helps your survivors to avoid emotional overspending and actually keeps the cost of your funeral much lower than it would be if your family planned your funeral when you die.
6. Outer burial container
Most cemeteries require a casket to be placed in an outer burial container. This vault or liner serves to protect the top of the casket from collapsing and also protects the surface integrity of the cemetery. Without the outer burial container, the ground above the casket might sink, causing possible injury to people and damage to equipment.
7. Marker and/or stone memorial
After you are buried or entombed, the marker/memorial tells your loved ones where you are buried - and tells others a little bit about you. The marker usually is made of bronze or granite. Granite is also used to build a stone memorial. These take some time to design and manufacture; they can also be purchased in advance and put in place when needed.
So as you can tell, there is a lot to do. So with all the contracts that have to be written - and funded - doesn't it make sense to begin now?
We'll talk.
Jordan
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